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Narcissist Healing - Part I
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How does a narcissist ex feel after the relationship ends? Does it matter who ended it? I don't think so. In my case, I was devalued for years before being discarded in 2014. I attempted to move on a few times and each time I seemed to be getting someone, she would test to see if any strings were still attached. If not, she would do something extra "sweet" to reel me in, then test again to see if I would react. A wash, rinse and repeat situation.
She has since moved on and met someone. But she still hasn't completely cut the ties with me in that regard. It's better now than its ever been but only because I have so many boundaries in place. Narcissists hate boundaries by the way.
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Hi this is Steve and I want to thank you for listening to these videos and commenting on these videos and I do try to reply to everybody's comments and people have been wishing me some healing and moving forward and moving on with my life and that is exactly what I've been trying to do for the last two years.
I've seen videos where people say the reason why your ex contact you and stuff well if they're not your narcissistic ex that is I'm not a therapist I can't speak from a therapist point of view I can speak from a person who spent 14 years in a relationship with a narcissist in two years post relationship through shared children, and it's been kind of a nightmare.
I was a kind of a codependent underachiever I kind of mentioned that in other videos I latched on to her through the love-bombing.
I thought she was my soul mate I so it was more difficult for me to move on than it was for her however my attempts to move on seemed to meet resistance.
You'd think that she'd be happy that I was making my life and I wasn't hanging on to her and constantly texting her and finding excuses to be near her bump into her, stalk her even, I did the exact opposite that.
I tried to leave her alone I tried to I even set up boundaries that, was a, rabbit in the garden thing if you can see that.
I even set up boundaries so that we wouldn't contact each other that often I that there wouldn't be constant emails and phone calls and stuff so I first started dating a few months after the relationship ended.
I remember her asking me if I was seeing anybody I said no but I've been dating and she started crying and I felt like an ass and next thing I know she asked out my only single friend to go hiking and she told me that the day I became a citizen the US citizen.
She basically called me to ruin my day so attempted to he was still a pretty good day.
I remember telling her she asked me again a few months later if I was seeing somebody and I guess I hadn't learned my lesson the first time so I mentioned that I'd been dating somebody, and she didn't talk to me for two months after that.
She kind of went and changed her whole appearance actually, she she had eyes lasered she lost a bunch of weight she got a new hairstyle she got a whole new wardrobe.
Physically she completely changed but a personality was the same.
So then she went out dating and started finding different ways to tell me about it I remember one particular time she told me that she was sad and she'd been crying and I asked why she goes are you sure you want to know and I was like this doesn't sound good and I wasn't over her by this point and I think she wasn't sure whether I was I wasn't so she was testing.
Testing to see if I was over her so I, I didn't want to know and in a few days went past and asked how she's doing she told me she hadn't slept for two days and she had to take two days off of work and I said well what's going on she goes well you sure you want to know? And I said, oh oh no no it's best I don't know these things
it's your private life.
I don't want to know well she told the kids and the kids told me.
The kid said all mums upset I said oh yeah she got here she she likes somebody who doesn't like her back.
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